It’s not over til it’s over. Seriously.

Nov 9, 2009 by

Just when you think you’ve got things all figured out, God reminds you that you are sorely mistaken.  If you’re lucky, you can laugh about it later.

I honest-to-God thought that people were over the whole I “don’t work” thing.  Really, I did. 

I mean…I’m over actually caring what people think/say about it.  It’s been 7 months.  It’s not new information.  I don’t have a 9-5, whoop dee doo. It works for me, it works for my husband, it works for my family.  Really, it does.

I no longer feel the need to explain what I “do all day” or why I quit PJS.  It’s none of your business.  Really, it’s not.

With that being said, I do notice when people STILL make comments.  Maybe more so than before, since they’re less frequent and less intentionally hurtful and/or nosy.  Mostly, these comments make me wonder what Adam thinks.  I often relay the stupid comments to him over dinner, but he never says anything.  Not a word.  I started to wonder if maybe the reason he didn’t say anything was that he’d changed his mind and wanted me to go back to the paper every day.  Then I really started freaking out.  I don’t care what anyone thinks…except my husband…and if he’s upset about it, then we have a real problem.  Really, we do.

When I asked him why he doesn’t comment, he got pretty upset.  He said he thinks those people are stupid and it actually hurts his feelings too because people are saying mean things to his wife, and even though we both know they are untrue and ridiculous, it’s still hurtful for him to hear that they’re hurting me.  He said he’s tired of having to explain and/or justify our personal decisions and thinks it’s absolutely outrageous that people actually want justification.  We don’t ask anyone to explain why they go back to work after having children, or why they don’t.  We don’t ask people why they purchase a specific vehicle or why they live in a certain area.  We just assume they made the decision that works best for their family, and that it’s none of our business.  He said he didn’t realize our decision would be so controversial that it would warrant people feeling that they actually had a right to question it.  Lastly, he said he is sick and tired of people not realizing that it’s rude and disrespectful to BOTH of us, not just me, to make these comments.  I thought it was pretty sweet for him to stick up for me!  So the next time you have an ignorant/seemingly innocent (depending on who you ask) comment, I have one thing to say to you:  Really, fuck off!

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